When you are ready to make a change in your life, there is only one question that you need to ask yourself: how to overcome fear? For most people the answer is pretty basic: fear. Fear keeps you from taking action towards what you desire most. Fear is often the key limiting factor keeping you from succeeding at what you desire most. Fear leads to excuses and distracts you from reaching your goals but it does not need to be that way.
Learning how to overcome fear begins with understanding exactly what causes fear in the first place. Most often, fears are rooted in the part of you that is commonly known as the subconscious mind. There is rarely anything that you are afraid of for which you can objectively control. It is instead your interpretation of events around you that creates the fear. This means that you have total control over your interpretation of whatever situation you find yourself in.
The fear that you experience is an “undisclosed unknown”. For most of us, when we discover that we are afraid, all that is really needed to relieve the fear, is to tell ourselves that we are not afraid at all. This simple act of telling ourselves that what we are experiencing is just an “undisclosed unknown” will empower us to overcome the feeling of fear immediately because we will no longer believe that it is “just an unknown”.
If we continue to believe that our fears are “real”, it will become real for us. We will feel some kind of anxiety while moving forward in our endeavors, and it will certainly get harder. This is because it will be next to impossible to get through these fears because they will be completely out of our control. Yet if we continue to tell ourselves that these fears are not real, it becomes real for us. That’s why the ability to control our reaction to our fears is absolutely necessary for any kind of lasting change.
When you start to think about how to overcome fear, it is important to acknowledge that you may have had them before. You do not have to beat yourself up about it; acknowledging that this has happened before helps you put it in perspective. By making it seem as though the fear wasn’t real, you are actually helping yourself to move on past it in a different way. You are no longer trying to grapple with the horrible “now” and trying to move on from it. Instead, you are more likely to focus on the next time you experience the fear and be able to push through it effectively.
Finally, it is absolutely necessary to constantly remind ourselves that we are not afraid of our fears – that we are afraid of not being able to move on from them. Focusing on this fact and pushing ourselves to keep moving on from our fears does not mean that we are accepting anything. It means that we are honoring the courage that we need to move forward despite the fear that we are experiencing. When we can make this choice, we will find that life moves much faster.